When I watched this video the first time I was inspired to spring into action immediately and have life figured out within the month. This was around the time of my university graduation and things were only looking great. However, a couple months later, graduated and jobless, I’m revisiting the video as I am writing a piece on adulthood at the moment. I still feel inspired by the talk and hopeful, but also know that when you’re in the thick of it what she proposes is not all peaches and cream.
Meg Jay is a psychologist who has counseled many twentysomethings as she calls them. Her three main points are: 1) “Forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital:” By this she means add value and invest in the person you are and who you would like to be. One important point she makes is that she allows for youthful exploration, but not exploration “that’s not supposed to count.” 2) “Explore weak ties:” In other words, network. Don’t only stick to your inner circle. 3) “Be as intentional with love as you are with work:” Consciously choose your love partner and don’t jump into deep commitment with the person nearest to you when options start running thin and your thirties are inching closer.
I found an extremely interesting response article to the video in which three women, each in their twenties, thirties and forties respectively, explain their thoughts on what Meg Jay says. One thing they seem to agree upon is how anxious you are not to screw up in your twenties and that this kind of pressure doesn’t seem to be helping. The comment section on this article is also exploding with various opinions ranging from infuriated to inspired.
This prompted me to think about my own reactions to the video. I will discuss them later on, but for now I’m curious what those who are in their twenties or those who have passed them think about this video.